Thirty!

If you are not an idealist by the time you are twenty you have no heart, but if you are still an idealist by the time you are thirty, you don't have a head - Randolph Bourne

According to the quote above, I only have 6 days to quit being an idealist; otherwise I will be considered as a brainless woman. Did I say woman? I guess this is logic, since I’m turning thirty in a week I can’t refer to myself as a “girl” anymore; I’m a young woman although I’m single.

I don’t think quitting being an idealist would be an easy thing for me but I’m willing to do it. So I thought if I came up with some action items and achieved them, it might work. So here are my action items:

1. 
   Never take anything/ anyone forgranted; since everything around me is continuously changing I don't think it's wise to think anything/ anyone will stay the same forever. I should either adapt to new changes if I care enough to cotinue, otherwise I should reject these changes and move away.
2. Never expect others to read my mind and act accordingly; I should be crystal clear regarding my desires/ dislikes.
3. Be selfish sometimes and focus on ME, no matter what others may think.
4. Since nobody, including myself is perfect then just saying the words "Mr.Perfect" is so wrong. "Mr. Perfect" is nowhere to be found except on "Lala Land" and since I'll never want to be a "Lala Land" resident then I should stop searching for him.

mmmm..... I think this is enough to replace the idealist residing in my mind with a realist.