The Black Box and the Female Spider

I guess I'm one of those who enjoy making up and using their special terms . I keep using my special codes in front of my close friends who tell me I'm pretty good at it. For example, when I ask one of my girlfriends to "watch my back" this does not mean that I want her to protect my back beacuse I'm afraid of being shot. I just want her to know that I'll be leaning forward to pick something from the ground and I am asking her to alert me if my back is showing. I sometimes think its funny that friends use their special codes and definitions that nobody else knows.

One of the latest terms I made up is "Black Box". Wikipedia defines a Black Box as follows:

Black Box is a technical term for a device or system or object when it is viewed primarily in terms of its input and output characteristics.

Thus the definition above states that a Black Box is a system whose internal structure is uknown, and whose inputs and outputs are the only concern. Knowing what a black box is from a scientific prespective, I recently started to use the term to refer to a certain type of guys. A Black Box is a guy who plans to get married and who actually does not have a special girl to propose to so he simply asks his parents, siblings, friends, co-workers, relatives and even neighbors to search for a suitable girl for him. Everyone who knows the guy start the searching process in order to set this guy up with a girl. The girl is usually told some information about the guy; his job, how much money he makes a month, his appartment, his car and of course his readiness to get married ASAP. In most cases nothing is mentioned about the guy's personality, nature, .....nothing at all. Similar information about the girl is told to the guy and a meeting is arranged.

Some girls don't like this old fashioned way and think it worked fine with their parents two or three decades ago but it is not good enough for them. Some girls think its okay to meet guys this way and have no problem to get engaged a few months after their first date. Well, I can't say I'm totally against this Black Box thing, if a girl wants to meet guys this way that's fine. What I don't agree with is the way girls behave after the first two or three dates with the Black Box. Many girls make the mistake of believing they have finally met their prince charming. They simply close their eyes and ignore everything they might dislike about the guy. Finally the girl marries the Balck Box and shortly after the honeymoon is over problems start and the number of unhappy marriages increases by one.

Another term I've been lately using is the "Female Spider". A female spider usually kills the male after mating as the male is of no further use to the female. That's the reason I use this term to refer to girls who want to marry a guy just for the sake of being a wife and having kids. My sister has just told me about one of her friends who I call a typical Female Spider. This girl was engaged to one of her friends for a year and a half now and they are getting married in a few months. Immediately after their engagement the girl started to bad-mouth her fiance. She started telling everyone including their common friends that his character was weak, he was sort of a shaken person and that this engagement thing happened so suddenly that she was not sure of her feelings towards the guy (she has known him for five years before they got engaged!!!!!!!). I really felt sorry for the guy after hearing this, its totally unethical of the girl to do this to her fiance. Nobody is perfect and if she can't accept her fiance the way he is I think she should break up this engagement. What this girl does not know that mutual respect is a key issue to a successful relationship and talking badly about fiance is an obvious proof to her disrespect to the guy. I guess she simply does not care to have a healthy relationship with her fiance, all what she cares about is getting married and having kids. Actually she is acting as a typical egyptian girl who think she is an uncomplete person till she gets married.